A lot of people misunderstand - gratitude....
...it seems like a fruity sham : which people express...to appear 'nice'...
....and i think : that is where people make their mistakes which multiply...
few reminders..
life : is a 'feel' driven equation..
feelings + time => feelings we seek => analyze 'feelings'
this is the most basic construct of life..
it starts with L0.. nihilistic life of 0..life at lowest levels.
for example - most animals for most time - are hungry..
dey gather food, 'feel' good and satiates ....
...and the loop of 'feeling' fulfilled - becomes a loop of life.
At L0 : we become 'grateful' for the 'loop'..
which frees us from - routine feelings : like eating working and living through the loop which we accepted as life.
sometimes : things go out of 'order'..
our loop of expectations - is broken...
this is where - our 'gratitude' becomes difficult to exhibit or 'feel'.
gratitude - is simply noeing 'why' of it happened - the loop..
or breaking out of it.
sure - wen the loop is broken, things look 'unpleasant' for us..
it is not 'usual' for us - which we accepted as life - a set of expectations and results from dem.
gratitude is simply understanding 'why' or L2 of 'it'...
and finally making sure of the 'purpose' of your life...
the hint : no matter how ugly things happned or forced on you...
someday - u got to make sense of 'why' of it...
coz sometimes - it is just purpose as u accepted before birth...
and it was for a purpose - bigger than u.
see - delusional - gratitude.
it is not always - +ve....but becomes 'logical' with 'time'.
further thoughts...
gratitude for misfortunes - is developed over 'time'...
takes - years - to discover the 'why' of it...
it doesnt mean - being 'happy' or 'god fearing/loving'..
but - acknowledging it happened, feeling it to live thru it..
...and having faith - to noe 'why' of it..wen it all is in past - 'hindsight'.
i think we are allowed to be angry, sad, depressed - etx..
coz maybe - that is what we signed up for 'purpose' of soul?
remember - no absolute good/byd. 😵💫
people rarely feel gratitude for 'good times'..
...mostly - dey perform under societal / page 3 pressure to 'express' it...
example is the billionaires : who hack this sense of gratitude : to appear - 'righteous' - to placate page 3 - commonfolk peeps : a justification of guilt of the resources/money dey - accumulated.
wen - being given 'more' : is more of an input - to discover 'why' of it..
and 'time' of it...
losing teaches us - more...
winning makes us - happy or non gratuitous..at L0. 😵💫